There is a problem with the majority of success minded individual’s way of approaching success. It’s not a complex problem, but the intensity of it is enormous. What I mean is most people have a success block or barrier that hinders any action for victory. The solution, however, is simple.  It’s definitely NOT easy. But it’s real simple.

What is the secret?

Glad you asked.

If you are a person who dream of success but find yourself wanting, wandering and wondering about what to do to achieve your goals, desires and dreams OR if you keep “doing things” that do not produce the results you wish, read on.

Your unspoken secret that is murdering your success is the fact that you care too much what people think about you. That’s it. End of story.

If you are held back by lack of (or timid) action, fear of failure or any other issue that may cause you embarrassment or fear of ridicule, then you have a problem with caring too much about the other person’s thoughts more than you care about success.

Think about your finances. Do you NOT trim down the budget because you don’t want to be embarrassed at what others might think? Do you give in to the “going out” when you know you don’t have the cash? Do you buy big expensive things like cars or houses to make sure you don’t look like the “outsider” while all the while your money situation is totally out of control? You care too much what others think.

Do you eat when everyone else eats even when you’re not hungry because you don’t want to feel like you’re not part of the group? There’s no control over what you want because you’re too busy trying to please people you don’t like by eating food you don’t need with money you don’t have. But hey! You’re not disappointing anyone. Except yourself.

What do you want?
Do you want to lose weight?
Do you dream of building wealth?
Do you desire a great relationship?
Are you trying to succeed by promotion in your career?

The solution to caring what others think is easier said than done. But there is a way within your mind that you can make it much more of a reality. And with some practice, you’ll be much more respected for your achievements.

Here are a few ways to stop caring too much about what others think.

1. Take a stand.
There’s an old saying that goes “If you don’t stand for something, then you’ll fall for anything”. That is one of the most profound statements that I have ever heard. The fact is if you don’t stand up for your convictions, your passions, you’ll wimp out and intellectually become limp like a wet noodle when you are challenged. Take a stand. But even more, know why you take a stand. Know your position on what you believe and know why you take that position.

Do NOT just believe something because you heard it somewhere and your friends seem to believe it. Taking a stand is more than being someone’s parrot. Be an individual and you’ll make a powerful impression.
 
2.Take massive action.
When you have firmly claimed your passions and convictions to the point you will fight for them no matter who differs in your opinion, you are ready to take massive action toward your goals, desires and dreams. The hardest part will be growing the backbone to stand up for your convictions (if you don’t have that type of personality). But once you have reached that point, it is extremely easy to take massive action toward your dreams.

In fact, no one will get in your way. You will find more people that are willing to get you where you want to go. Why? Because you are living what you are meant to live. You are passionate about what you believe. You will indirectly command respect and you will eventually find a following. You will find a following because most people don’t know what they believe and they jump at the first opportunity to follow a passionate, firmly rooted, passionate individual. That is you.

3. Define Yourself.
You will not reach your destiny without being true to yourself. You will not fulfill your destiny without knowing who you are.

The majority of society is following an idea. As I said before, there are very few people who know what they stand for and stand for what they believe in. In order to take a firm stand you have to know who you are and believe in yourself. How do you do that?

The first step is to do just like you would if you wanted to master anything else. You must practice. You must constantly be aware of who you are, what you are doing and why you choose to act or react in any given situation. Are you choosing your behavior or is it dictated by what others may think? 

You must define yourself.

As Shakespeare said, “To Thine own Self be true.” If you’re not, there are difficult roads ahead to success.

Don’t let the never spoken secret kill your success efforts.
Vincent DC